You can make love to the same person for the rest of your life in a million different ways, places and situations. Here are some foreplay tips for familiar lovers and some great ideas for just about anyone. Continue reading ›
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The Joy of Sex by Alex Comfort is such a seminal book that even people who have never laid eyes on a copy know about the iconic bearded man and the saucy French terms, and the troubling references to vacuum cleaner injuries. When it was first published in 1972 the book didn’t just reflect the new free-love, “anything goes as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone” attitude to sex, it also helped to shape already changing attitudes. Since then it has been updated four times and has sold more than eight million copies in 14 countries. Continue reading ›
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With US agency NASA and several other countries planning more and more space missions, scientists have started to debate on the possibility of cosmic sex. Continue reading ›
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Judging from my long time experience as a tantric sex coach, it seems to me that most people at some point in their lives have a sexual experience that could be called transcendental or mystical, or simply out of this world wonderful.
So, if it’s so natural, why don’t more people enjoy mind-blowing sex as a regular, everyday thing? That’s because our upbringing has trained us out of our intuitive knowing. Still, having once, or sporadically, had this experience, it is only understandable that people spend their lives trying to recapture that special moment, often failing to do so.
The reason Tantra has become so popular lately is because tantric sex describes quite well this sacred sex that people are missing. And so people try out whatever suggestions they find under the term Tantra. But what a lot of people don’t understand is that no amount of techniques or special breathing rhythms or chants or body positions, or incense or gadgets will get you to this longed for state of blissful pleasure and merging.
What you need to get there is much simpler then that. To have fantastic life-altering sex you need emotional and physical openness, that’s it.
It’s simple but that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily easy.
That’s why, paradoxically, these mystical sexual experiences are often experienced by couples who are fairly new to each other. Check your own experience and see if I’m right.
Does that mean that you should go from honeymoon to honeymoon, from partner to partner in search of this magical sex. Oh no! The truly best sex, the lasting kind, the really amazing deeply transformational sex is always found in committed relationships where the partners keep growing in closeness together.
So what can a couple do to consistently have the best sex they’ve ever had? And not just on their honeymoon or once in a great while? They can commit to emotional, physical and energetic opening. But how?
In my home audio workshop and e-book Sex for the Soul I go into great detail as to what a couple can do, but here I’ll just give you a short list of tips:
2. Talk about your sex life. Be willing to increase your communication about specific sexual physical details by 100%; what works for you, what doesn’t, and what you wish your partner and you would try. Keep blame out of it. Rather then focusing on what doesn’t work let each other know what would work. Make yourself vulnerable and be honest.
3. Relax your body when you make love. Slow things down enough so that you can feel your genitals very sensitively. Start slow, and slow down in between more heated moments. Your body will teach you how to have sacred sex if you slow down enough to listen to it.
4. Be willing to experiment with new ways of playing in the bedroom, physically and emotionally.
5. Don’t settle for sexual gratification, which means, don’t just go for orgasm at all cost, neither his nor hers. Seek to make love, to create a space of lovingness, each time you connect sexually.
6. Make love often; bring your bodies together regularly. Let your lovemaking become a meditation of surrender, connection, vulnerability and deep relaxation. See it as a spiritual practice. Let your relationship be a journey of learning and growing in love together.
And here an excerpt from my upcoming audio program “Sex for the Soul”
One of the messages of this program is: Don’t just have sex, make love! Most people, when they hear the words making love immediately assume it means having a sexual exchange, am I right? Have you ever really considered why that is?
Another message of this program is equally important: Don’t just live together, make love! So many long- term couples have given up and resigned themselves to a life of companionship, and maybe occasional sex, but there are many easy and some not so easy things a couple can do to bring the spark back to their partnership.
And to come back to the value of tantric techniques, special breathing rhythms, mantras, chants, sexual positions, energy exercises, incense, sacred symbols, etc.
If you want to start today, try one of my tips for Sacred Sex above.My audio workshop will give you many more explicit and detailed instructions to work with, but for now go to my list of tips and start exploring the vast depths of sexual mystery and magic that is yours by birthright.
Resources: http://www.sacredloving.net/
The man and woman are naked and relaxed. For reasons to be explained shortly, the woman will relieve her bladder beforehand. The woman is then encouraged to lie comfortably on her stomach upon the bed with her thighs slightly parted.
The G-spot is gently rubbed; any way is appropriate: side to side or in a circular motion, as long as it is gentle. Treatment of the G-spot is similar to that of the clitoris in this initial stage.
In other words, it is handled moderately, languidly. As soon as the man feels the small knob inflate he begins to treat it increasingly more vigorously; the woman will soon let him know if he is being too rough but, almost always, this is never the case. When the G-spot becomes aroused it can be subjected to extremely vigorous treatment; in fact, the rougher, the better.
The woman feels herself rising to a climax, coupled with a sensation of needing to urinate. But she ignores the sensation emanating from her bladder. She will not pee because she has already urinated before trying this sex position.
Within a couple of minutes of her inflamed G-spot being manipulated, the woman experiences a huge, body-rocky G-spot orgasm. It is several times more powerful than the more commonplace clitoral orgasm. Some women have reported it feeling ten to twenty times more orgasmic.
Now, depending on the woman’s overall level of health and fitness, the man can resume G-spot manipulation within thirty seconds to two minutes of the orgasm. He then simply repeats the rough, vigorous G-spot massage, until another orgasm rocks through the woman.
This article is, of course, about the best sex position ever. So I will now describe the second phase of coupling wherein the man substitutes his penis for, used up until now, his thumb.
When the woman has experienced several orgasms, her G-spot will be highly sensitive. She will be able to feel the sensitive knob pleasurably throbbing within her vagina.
The man lies on his back and the woman mounts him, allowing his erect penis to completely penetrate her vagina. The woman is now able to ride the man and angle her body appropriately so the head of his penis is hitting her sensitive G-spot.
Just as when her G-spot was being manipulated by the man’s thumb, the woman is able to experience repeated deep orgasms, separated by either seconds or minutes. To add to the already intense sexual pleasure she experiences by this sex position, she can also massage her own clitoris, and enjoy simultaneous G-spot and clitoral orgasmic climaxes.
I think you can appreciate how this is clearly the best sex position ever. In a single evening a woman is able to experience hundreds of orgasms, larger than ever before, and the man is, of course, revered for giving the woman such grandiose heights of sexual ecstasy.
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When it comes to making love, women are generally more into the fantasy aspect surrounding the erotic experience than they are the simple thrill of getting undressed with someone they know and love (or maybe even don’t!).
Enticing a woman to yield to your deepest, most secret desires requires that you gradually draw her into your world by making yourself into a unique high value lover, and then doing so on a consistent basis until you secure her complete enchantment (and submission).
You do this by customizing each and every experience in bed for her based on some careful investigation on your part. Great sex for most women can be defined as erotic in a way that she doesn’t consider inappropriately perverted with a man who has learned to deliver the goods in a way that she likes, time after time.
Imposing task? Not necessarily. Here’s a three step plan to help you navigate this special road into the erotic heart of any woman…
1) Search For Her Erotic Weaknesses
The first step is to figure out what sort of cheap tricks in your bag will send a particular chick into orbit. How?… Experiment! Maybe she likes to be dirty-talked or verbally coaxed along? Perhaps she wants you to control her in some way? Or maybe she wants to control YOU? Try all sorts of things with her… spanking, tickling, toys, take some nasty pictures, do it out in the bushes, try some stuff in the shower, swap positions, etc.
Use your porno powers here that you’ve spent years (probably all by yourself) “cultivating”. Some of this mayhem may turn her off, but there’s usually SOMETHING that will get a woman red-lining off the meter — and it’s your job to discover what that is and then learn how to play it like a fiddle!
If she refuses to go very much beyond plain vanilla missionary-style, then you may have run across a chick with low sex drive or other pressing issues on her mind that she feels must be more important.
Rather than be angry about it, count your blessings. It’s liberating to uncover such crucial knowledge of incompatibility about a partner as soon as possible because it can head off a ton of future misery.
Turning someone this far gone towards your more open-minded, erotically-experimental direction can be an impossible chore. I’ve always felt that the best sex occurs between two child-like adults. By that I mean people who don’t take themselves too seriously — at least not to the point where they feel sex has become “kid stuff” and somehow beneath their dignity.
People who’ve taken on too much responsibility in life are likely to end up this way by middle-age. Just a warning.
Anyway, regular work between the sheets will eventually uncover where all her high water marks are located, and her limits as well. Keep notes on what you’re doing and of her reactions to your experimental prodding — silly as this may sound. After you fill a few pages of such notes, go back and search for clues.
Look for those things that she seems to enjoy the most and figure out a few clever ways to focus in on them.
Now you’re ready to lock her heart up tight, and lock yourself into the drivers’ seat.
2) Become Her “Drug” Based on that Weakness
Once you think you have some idea of what her sexual weaknesses could be (in the sense that she has a “weakness” or intense desire for these acts, fantasies, etc.) you’re ready to zoom in on them, expand upon them, make them more elaborate — until you become really good at delivering the best sexual experience that she’s ever had… time after time.
If she wonders what the deal is with your sudden amorous enthusiasm, try crossing her up a little by telling her that she makes you feel uninhibited like no one else ever has. This freaks them out because most women think that all guys are natural sex-fiends to some degree and don’t realize that it often takes someone special to actually bring this quality out.
For you, this person is her! Such an attempt to reach out and connect your soul with hers through raw physical pleasure makes a powerful impression that cannot be easily dismissed or forgotten. The rush of adrenaline that accompanies such feelings will serve to weld these unique moments deep into her unconscious mind.
And they will all be connected to YOU… you will always be “that guy” who did “that thing” the night you were both together at “that place”.
Now you’re beginning to see romantic enchantment in action!
3) Get Her Addicted to You
Look, most people pretty much wing it when it comes to sex - they know a few basic moves and make the rest up as they go along. The fact that you have 1) studied your “prey” and determined what really turns her on, and 2) are making an effort to satisfy her in specific ways that tie into these revelations, will surely paint you as a totally different breed of cat. And that’s good!
That’s male mystery in action. Before long you’ll be seen as a champion among all the men she’s known, and really, you’ll hardly have done anything all that stupendous. You’ll just be doing things with a little more purpose, direction and creativity than the usual average Joe.
While the task of enchanting a woman is mainly one of carefully feeding her thrills and absorbing her fears based on what you’ve learned from your study of her sexual proclivities, one warning however… never bust this illusion by announcing what you’re up to. Don’t say, “I’m going to make you addicted to me!…” For that matter, NEVER reveal that you’re actually seducing a woman either.
Once people begin to think they’re being manipulated they will throw up massive resistance. Like a stage magician, a trick is only cool as long as you never reveal how it works. If you show the audience how the string runs up your sleeve they’ll think ‘oh, that trick was easy’, and then suddenly the whole thing sucks.
As for technique, simple… women just LOVE men who talk it up in bed! What to say? Try stating the not-so-obvious… tell her all the enticing stuff she longs to hear, but never expects to. Tell an older woman that she’s tight like a young chick… Rave about a thick girl’s voluptuous body…
Tell a skinny girl her long arms make her look like a statue in an art museum. Arms? How often do someone’s arms get complimented on? Or maybe that you absolutely love the way her shoulder blades look like little angel wings. Thin girls think they’re not very sexy because they don’t have enough curves.
Not to you though… you’re enthralled by it! Tell a 25 year old she has a sultriness that belies her real age — making her seem more like an experienced middle-aged seductress…
Notice the pattern here? No one wants to be themselves! They want to be younger or older or shaped differently or whatever… anything but plain old them! This is why you need to think up a new custom compliment for your girl every time you hook up with her intimately — so it appears that you are unraveling her bit-by-bit like a delicate flower… each layer more wonderful than the last.
And you are the very FIRST guy to ever see her in this way… as this fantasy creature that she never dared dream of being. But you can see through the ordinary and view the extraordinary in her. Few women can resist this sort of lavish attention spilling forth from their lover… it’s intoxicating!
This is the way that you establish a position of power and control in all your relationships with women and have them “eating out of your hand”… not with the vinegar of conflict but with the honey of a unique sensuality that she’s unlikely to ever find anywhere else or in the arms of any other man…
By becoming her sweetest addiction!
Mike Pilinski overcame an incredible case of rejection phobia by learning how to mimic certain key behaviors that women find attractive in high status males, the resulting success now forming the basis for the methods that he teaches. Visit Mike’s website at http://www.HighStatusMale.com to see his highly acclaimed e-books “Without Embarrassment” and “She’s Yours For The Taking: A Man’s Guide to the Seduction and Enchantment of Women”.
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